Wrong kinds of guys we should really stop dating

Eloise Bouton

Eloise Bouton

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1. Guys who are emotionally unavailable: These types of guys often have difficulty expressing their emotions and may be unable to commit to a relationship. They may also be unreliable and lack empathy.

2. Guys who are manipulative: These types of guys use their charm to manipulate others and get what they want. They often use guilt trips and gaslighting to control their partners.

3. Guys who are commitment-phobic: These types of guys are afraid of commitment and may be unwilling to make any kind of long-term plans. They may also be afraid of getting too close to someone and may be unwilling to open up emotionally.

Sometimes we bristle at relationships that just won’t go away, other times we stay tied for (too) long to people who don’t make us feel good for fear of being alone.

It’s not about bad guys (not always), just the wrong guys for you.

Or at least wrong for you right now.

The important thing in any case is to never, ever stay in a relationship that doesn’t make you feel good or allow a man to disrespect you.

Here are 8 behaviors that indicate this person is not worth investing any further (time, feelings, hope) in.

Let it go: if he feels like changing, he knows where to find you.

If he is selfish

If he is fine everyone is fine, only his point of view is valid and only what he wants is done.

In a couple one must also be concerned about how the other is doing and file down attitudes that may be good for one but do not respect or make the other feel good.

If he is not able to understand this there is no basis for building.

If he or she freaks out

A person who takes out his or her frustrations on you and hurts you (even if only psychologically) consciously, just to throw his or her insecurities and slams at you is a toxic person who can bring no good.

Hardly likely to change.

If you have to chase after him

Every time you arrange to see each other you are always the one who has to go to him and hustle with moves and various organizations.

He arranges to limit his flapping and make you run around like a spinning top by following his schedule as well.

Let him run, do you really want to doze off like this? If he doesn’t run after you maybe you should give it up.

If it is difficult

All stories in the beginning should be easy, there should be no paranoia, problems, insecurities, mountains to conquer, tetris to solve.

If a story starts out difficult it has no future, it will always remain difficult and full of complications.

So if the boat doesn’t sail with the wind maybe you should abandon it.

If he hates your friends

If someone loves you he can’t make scorched earth around you, plus if you can’t share moments with pleasant others it means you are not meant to be together.

There are no relationships that work well with only two, sooner or later they become asphyxiated and end up running out of air or one of you starts minding your own business.

If it makes you feel sad

A relationship cannot do you good with an eyedropper: if it makes you shed gallons of tears, it means something is wrong.

There are people who end up feeling even lonelier in a relationship-this is a symptom that there is something toxic.

Sure, you can’t be happy all the time and complications come, but at least in the beginning it should print a big smile on your face.

If he disrespects you

If he treats you badly and doesn’t even realize it, if he humiliates you in front of his friends, if he does his own thing and doesn’t understand that he is hurting you or if he makes you feel unimportant well he deserves to walk out of your front door even in the middle of the night.

If you allow him to disrespect you you are allowing him to disrespect you and you are also doing it to yourself.

If he pats you

Eravyou’ve been agreeing to go out for a week, you’ve already arrived at the restaurant, and he tells you five minutes before that he’s changed his plans if you were going to go to the movies and says he just couldn’t make it.

There is no more than one occasion in life when this can happen in the age of smartphones.

On the second one you pack it in, permanently.

Summary

This article discusses 8 behaviors that indicate a person is not worth investing any further (time, feelings, hope) in. These behaviors include selfishness, freaking out, having to chase after them, difficulty in the relationship, disrespect, and patting you. The article encourages readers to let go of these relationships and focus on finding someone who makes them feel good and respects them.